Monday, April 30, 2012

No 7 Year Itch Here

7 years ago today (April 30th, 2005) this was us...
And 2 moves and 2 kids later...this is us today...
 I can't believe we've known each other for 13 years, been married for 7 and parents for almost 5.  Time sure flies when you're having fun and are still in love.  I never would have expected this mysterious Sigma Chi I met in a bar, who is completely opposite of me in almost every way, would be my future hubby.   

If you are in love with your hubby when you get married (which of course you should be), watching him as a Daddy will make that love beyond words.  My man is the best Daddy in the world, and pretty darn sweet and caring to me too:)  He's not perfect.  I'd be lying if I said we never disagree or that he has no flaws or annoying habits.  He does.  Plenty of them.  Marriage isn't perfect, it's work.  But we both agree that it's worth the work, because our love is real (all the realities of it and all), we have made a beautiful family and life together, and we want to keep it healthy, nurtured and strong.

If I had to give advice to another couple just starting out their life together, I would say:
1. Let that person be their authentic self.  Don't stifle them or try to change who they are.  It won't work.  Give them time to do what they love.  Then they won't resent you.
2. Be friends first.
3.  Have humor in life.  You'll need it.  Laughter is the best medicine when just about everything is going wrong.
4. Respect & Trust each other.
5.  Communicate.  Don't let things fester.  Talk it out.
6.  Accept that no partner is perfect.  That doesn't exist in reality!  Let some things slide.  It will release anger and stress that might build up in your relationship.
7.  Coparent.  Always be a team.
8.  Don't bad-mouth your spouse to friends or family.  Eventually (hopefully) things will blow over in a fight, but your comrades will only see the negative pictures you painted over and over again.

Happy Anniversary, Babe! xoxo

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  1. I love you guys so much. Happy anniversary to the happy couple!!! We are celebrating 9 years soon. Seems so long ago and I love that we have been so close (even though so far) for all of it! Love and miss you!

  2. Happy Anniversary! We will be celebrating 7 years in August. I love your words of wisdom. So true! Your family is so precious. :)

  3. Happy Anniversary!!! PS I think watching my husband be an amazing father is one of the sexiest things!

  4. Happy anniversary! Great advice! I agree with marriage being work that is totally worth it and making a little family of more than two is the best ever!

  5. Happy Anniversary. You all have done a lot in seven years. ")I missed an older post, but was curious as to how you all have known each other so long. Were you all childhood friends?

  6. Never mind...I see that is 13 years and not 43 years. Sorry. My eyes apparently are like they used to be, and without morning tea....well, you know...

  7. Happy anniversary! We'll be celebrating 3 years tomorrow - I didn't realize our anniversaries were so close to each other. Your advice is all very wise and I totally agree that seeing my husband as a daddy has made me love him even more than I already did.

  8. Happy anniversary! Wishing you many MANY more years of happiness!


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