These instances of dandelion picking led to a discussion hubs and I had on one of our evening walks with the kids. When DO you break the realities of life to a child? Hubs and I both agree that it's best to tell the truth to our kids. We talked about it briefly, but never came to a sound conclusion. The discussion was tabled.
A few days later, T came home from his first pitch baseball practice and proudly announced that he was "the best batter, ever". Ummmmmm. I looked at hubs' face, and knew that wasn't exactly the case. Although T is doing quite well holding his own with the bigger kids, he's playing up in the 6U group, he's definitely not "the best". I said something like "great job buddy", and moved on.
This whole "I'm the best" situation brought the discussion about again on how to tell your child that life isn't fair and he's, most likely, not going to be a major league baseball player. How can we finally tell them they won't have everything given to them on a silver platter? How can we break it to our children that every loving, present-giving character they've believed in is actually lame old mom and dad? How long should we let them look through rose-colored glasses?
I do think society coddles today's youth far too much. I don't think every child should win a ribbon or get a trophy. ::eye roll:: Technically, they didn't all "win". What does this teach our children? I do think it's a tragedy that little leaguers can't chant "hey batter batter batter, swing batter" from the dugout or field. I mean...come on.... I do think blaming "bullying" for every problem in schools is a bit overboard (not saying it doesn't happen...I know it does). I am appalled at the level of helicopter parenting. I see it all first hand as a high school teacher. Even at 14-18, these kids think they "deserve" an A, and it's MY fault they didn't receive one. Mommy and Daddy tell them they're the best, so they assume that's how the world works. When they graduate, they'll be the ones expecting to make six figures right out of college, and won't settle for less because, they deserve it.
This is why, even if you don't agree with me, we will make sure T & B are not lied to. We have to figure out how to prepare them, how to be honest with them and how to sometimes perform tough love.
Although life isn't always fair, they will also know that their dad and I will always be there. No matter what, we will always love them, and they will get through it.
If you know my neighbor...this is even funnier! (aka Hairy Mower Man) LOL!
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