T & B had an absolute blast hanging out with their "cousins". There were babies and preschoolers abound! Fun times!
B & little Hayden
T & Hendrix playing superheroes. They're a bit obsessed:)
At the graduation party, I was hoping to let loose a little. I was looking forward to feeling less like a mom, and more like the me of yester-year. I had a pretty difficult week of work (see previous post) so I was looking forward to a bit of adult conversation and, admittedly, maybe a few too many adult beverages. I knew my parents would be there to help supervise the kiddos, I didn't have to drive, so I thought I'd be free to partake a bit more than usual, relax a bit.
Lets just say that it's a bit difficult to get your vodka on when you have one kid playing by the fire and another attached to your hip at all times. You have to feed, change 4 (yes 4) poopy diapers, and entertain a squirmy yet not-quite-walking baby girl. Not to mention the adult interactions were a bit sporadic. Every time I started to chime in either a kid needed me or I just had nothing to offer the conversation.
Things went downhill quickly.
My fabulous adult-filled night turned into just about every other night at home.
Plus, and here's the kicker, I was pretty much called "lame" by all the younger, (yeah, they're 30-31...so whatever) single and kid-less party-goers (mostly my brother's friends). We were talking about going to Vegas and random stories about nights out drinking, and I made the mistake of trying to chime in. I was IMMEDIATELY rebuffed. Basically it felt like "how dare I interject and compare our lives". I mean, I was a double-kided, married (gasp) person. How could MY life compare to theirs. One of the guys even said "well our lives are VERY different, you can't really compare us". Well okay then.
Now, was he talking negatively about my choices to be a married mom of 2?! Maybe, maybe not. Did I take it that way. Ummmm...hell yeah I did.
I quickly went from feeling like a contributing member of the "party" to a foreign invader, an unwanted guest on "their" turf. How dare I try to (gasp) have fun, and (double gasp) compare my younger, single, kidless days of old to their current lives. I mean...I'm....double L.A.M.E. and the farthest thing from them.
So, moral of the story is...my mood dropped quickly. I was put in my place, and that is where I stayed the rest of the night. The vodka went away. My jovial mood quickly turned. I stopped participating in the discussions and humorous stories. I went right back into full-on lame married mommy mode.
So just because you're a married mom does that mean you're boring?
Personally, I don't think so.
I guess I have to figure out how to not let that perception bother me. I like what my life has become. I adore being a wife and mom. I made these decisions freely. I'm not embarrassed by that. So why does it bother me they perceive me as lame-o?
But I'm fun too. Just ask me.
Now go pour out your own heart!
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